Wednesday, April 17, 2013

WIW + Positivity

A little exhausted on this happy little hump day.  The past two days of two a days sorta sucked the life out of me, but it's all good stuff so I can't complain.  I shockingly, despite the amount of wine consumption in the last week, I made the scale my bitch this week.  Down 1.1lbs!  Wanna know a secret?  Whenever I say a # of lbs I'm always afraid I'm gonna do the math wrong and people are gonna think I'm an idiot, self conscious much?  Ok, back to business.  So I'm realizing that my weekly routine is golden.  I'm a good little eater, I don't skip workouts, I (mostly) refrain from drinking anything but water and I feel good.  The weekends though, with this nice ass warm weather, are crushing me.  Ask me if I wanna day drink with you on a Saturday and I'll never ever say no, unless you're creepy, then you bet your ass I'll come up with an excuse.  Speaking of crushing, I want an orange crush.  Never had one?  You're missing the fuck out.
 
 
So I've come to the harsh realization that I probably need to buy a few new pairs of pants.  I bought this cute little green cardigan jacket thing the other week and I'm wearing it today but it's paired with cords.  Cords that are too big and I have to pull up to the ol' bellybutton so I don't have the most serious case of shit pants ever.  Don't tell the hubs (he's reading this, fuck) but I'm probably gonna need to go swipe some new pantalones asap.  Whatever, he doesn't like it when it looks like I shit my pants either so it's win/win.  Maybe Target will have some clearance pants?

 
Switching gears, a lot, I wanted to talk about something today that's really had an impact on me over the years.  These days I'm really starting to realize the effect that surrounding myself with positivity has on me.  Every relationship, whether it's a family member, significant other or a friend, has the ability to influence you in a positive way or a negative way.  When I was unhappy with myself I was (without knowing at the time) one of those people that believed misery needed company.  I'm miserable and I want you to be miserable too.  I don't think I brought joy to too many people's lives and nothing and no one really brought joy to mine.  You get out what you put in.

I'm about 100% happier these days and I'm realizing a lot about that whole dynamic.  I'm realizing who the people are in my life that I consider to be uplifting and positive.  The ones I want to share things with, good and bad, the ones that are there for me, the ones that I can be MYSELF with.  They're amazing people, they're my family that supports me no matter what, they're my friends that can make me laugh about something that I'm being an idiot about and remind me how lucky I am, they're my awesome husband that puts up with soooo much of my shit and loves me anyway.  But these are the people, that in return, I'll do anything and everything for.  I'll put my best foot forward for them because I know they'll do the same, probably with a smile on their face.
 
The people that don't fall into this category are the tough ones.  When you realize that someone isn't contributing to your life in a positive way, but doing the opposite instead.  The kind of person that with one little comment can make you feel like the biggest piece of shit on earth.  Got one?  Yep, me too.  I end up running into the dilemma that I don't know how to get them out.  But, for the first time in umm forever, I'm realizing that I can make that choice.  I can decide if I want that person in my life, or not.  Chances are it's a no.  Well, I used to let people like this rule my world and walk all over me.  Why?  Because I thought I wasn't worth it.  Well guess what motherfuckers, I am.  So take your negativity elsewhere, because I have plenty of people in my life that support me, make me happy and love me unconditionally.

Surround yourself with positivity and you'll notice a world of difference, I know I have.

I can finally differentiate those two people.  The ones that are worth the effort and the ones that aren't.  Can you?

Happy Wednesday!





9 comments:

  1. I think I'll take the pants you are shrinking out of. Just send them to Georgia. :) I feel like we should organize a clothing swap for those of us who are ever shrinking and changing sizes. Yes?

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  2. Awesome job on the weight loss!

    Yes, I recently (and very casually) cut ties with a "friend" from college. It took one too many episodes of her little "It's my world and you're all just living in it" attitude before I decided to say.....adios! Actually I didn't say anything to avoid a big unnessecary scene, but just sort of stopped any communication, which ended up being really easy. I'm a big girl and get to choose who I hang around, and she ain't it! Such a great feeling!!!

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  3. Great job on the weight loss, you obviously have found what works for you. I so need to find that balance that is right for me. You just keep on dropping that poundage.

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  4. Holla for the weight loss!! You're awesome =) ... I hear you on the negativity! I work with a shit ton of negative nancy's... It's almost unbearable at times - pretty bad when you can come to work perfectly happy and then leave wanting to rip someone's face off just because of the way people around you are acting. Time to start looking elsewhere huh? =) ... Great post!

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  5. I give you credit for realizing this and making changes. I have finally come to the same conclusion- This is my 1 chance at life and Im not living for anyone else but me. I definitely cut some ties with the debbie downers and the people who didnt have anything to contribute to our 'friendship'. It feels so good once I got over that initial hurdle of breaking up with a few of them, but so worth it. Im happy and living the best life I can for me!!!
    Keep on with your weight loss you are doing great and look amazing :)
    xoxo

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  6. Great post! I agree 100%. Life is too short to put up with people who don't add to the value of your life. I've had to stop being friends with negative people too and its hard but its good to realize that its YOUR choice. You don't have to put up with them bringing you down. Great job losing weight and 2 days! You're a rockstar.

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  7. Good job girl! Totally jealous. I'm currently drinking a glass of wine & sitting on my ass. I need to get it together, stat.

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  8. i love your blog! thank you for the inspiration! you make me want to be the very best version of myself! and crack me up while doing so!

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